Life's Timing

Abraham Lincoln once said, "The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time".  I've always looked at life this way. I TRY to take things slow, day by day because that is all the time I know that I actually have at this particular moment. But what is time? Time is the passing of moments, however big or little that make up the memories of one's life. These moments often fly by unnoticed. Often we don't take the time to stop and reflect on the memories we have made or the goals we have in front of us for our future. 

For the past few months I have thought a lot about my future and dating situation or lack thereof. I have thought about how my expectations of people, especially men, are set extremely high. I have set the bar high in hopes to find that absolutely amazing man.  I don't want to settle for anything less than everything, and I certainly don't plan to either. However, what I've recently found is that when the possibility of something great and amazing, such as that absolutely amazing man comes along, timing is not on my side.

Good things have happened to me in my life, don't get me wrong. But when the possibility of something great may happen, inevitably something ends up being in the way. Timing is just not right. Sometimes I wish I could just be handed that pretty, little silver platter we all love and be told, "Here you go, enjoy!". But no, instead it seems to be dangled right in front of me within my reach but I am told if I want something I am going to have to really work and continue to wait for it. I know that I have been promised great things if I am patient. I know I must show faith in God, and to show faith in God is to also show faith in his timing.

With that in mind, I will continue to take each day one at a time, keep my bar raised high and do what I can to make time our friend.

Being Pulled in Two Directions

Life is about options and options require a choice to be made. There will definitely come a time when you will have the opportunity to choose a path regardless of whichever direction you have chosen before. Sometimes both directions are desirable but you know that once you commit you have to stick with it until the next choice comes around. There are other very important things that come up due to life. Jobs, lifestyle, and overall comfort and happiness are important also. Sure, its fine to live in an apartment in college or at home for a short time, but in your 30's do you still want to live there?

My biggest point is that when the great fork or divided in the road shows up, don't be surprised when you stand there for a while agonizing on the dilemma of being pulled in two different directions. Life effects your decisions and reasons to go left may be awesome. However you may have been going right your entire life until you have hit this fork in the road. You probably never thought about what you lost by going right for the last 20+ years. You probably thought that you can do it all and have it all and life would take care of itself.

When this fork in the road comes up, I want you to attack the other part of your life as aggressively as possible. If the other side is to go to school, getting a house, getting married, or starting a family, whatever it may be, don't delay, just do it. If this other side of your life is switching up the game from what you are currently doing, then give it a shot and go for it.  There is something to be said about just standing there thinking about what is out there. In other words, quit standing there and staying you are going to do something, instead go for it.

No matter what path you chose you will find a way to succeed. It may take time, it may take a few detours, but once you succeed at one thing, you can succeed at just about anything. It's not really something worth thinking about because wherever it takes you, most likely it's better than standing there just thinking about it.